al-hatfields vs. al-mccoys

Nearly 4000 Muslims Attack Christian Homes in Egypt, Torch Church

“…This incident was triggered by a relationship between 40-year-old Copt Ashraf Iskander and a Muslim woman. Yesterday a ‘reconciliation’ meeting was arranged between the relevant Coptic and Muslim families and together with the Muslim elders it was decided that Ashraf Iskander would have to leave the village because Muslims torched his house.

The father of the Muslim woman was killed by his cousin because he did not kill his daughter to preserve the family’s honor, which led the woman’s brother to avenge the death of his father by killing the cousin. The village Muslims blamed the Christians….”

in many middle eastern|arab|south asian societies, the father’s brother’s son — the ibn ‘amm — has the first right to marry his paternal female cousin (i.e. his father’s brother’s daughter):

In many cases there is not only a preference but a right to marry the father’s brother’s daughter, wherein if the girl’s family wishes to marry her to anyone else they must first get the permission of the father’s brother’s son.

“Raphael Patai reports that in central Arabia, no relaxation of a man’s right to the father’s brother daughter (FBD) seems to have taken place in the past hundred years before his 1962 work. Here the girl is not forced to marry her ibn ‘amm but she cannot marry another unless he gives consent. The force of the custom is seen in one case from Jordan when the father arranged for the marriage of his daughter to an outsider without obtaining the consent of her ibn ‘amm. When the marriage procession progressed with the bride toward the house of the bridegroom, the ibn ‘amm rushed forward, snatched away the girl, and forced her into his own house. This was regarded by all as a lawful marriage. In Iraq, the right of the cousin has also traditionally been followed, and a girl breaking the rule without the consent of the ibn ‘amm could have ended up murdered by him….”

and my impression is she still can be.

previously: cousin marriage conundrum addendum

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